Wife reveals she ‘canceled Christmas’ because her husband bought his gaming buddy a pricey gift instead of her

A wife has revealed that she canceled Christmas after her husband bought a pricey gift for his gaming buddy instead of her. 

The unnamed 28-year-old woman took to Reddit to explain the situation. 

In a thread titled, ‘Am I The A**hole,’ she begged people on the web for advice as she revealed that her spouse had decided to purchase a costly gift for his pal that he plays video games with. 

She noted that her partner had splashed out a whopping $150 on the friend, but only bought her a $20 candle. 

The woman explained that her spouse got her for their family Secret Santa, which had a budget of $100, but instead, he spent his funds on his online friend. 

Upon learning that her spouse didn’t put any thought into her gift, she became furious and decided to cancel their family Christmas dinner. 

Now, her loved ones are slamming her for overreacting and have branded her as ‘petty.’ 

She questioned if she was in the wrong in a post titled, ‘Am I the a**hole for canceling Christmas dinner because my husband’s “secret Santa” gift was for his gaming buddy and not me?’

‘I’m currently hiding in our bedroom with a bottle of wine, while my husband plays video games in the living room, probably telling his online friends how I “ruined Christmas,”‘ she wrote.

‘My phone is blowing up with texts from his mom, calling me selfish, and I’m debating whether I should just block her until New Year’s. Let me explain what led to this festive meltdown.

‘For context, I (28F) have been married to my husband (30M) for three years, and we host Christmas dinner every year for his family. 

‘This year, I went all out – decorating the house, planning an amazing menu, even hand making some of the table decorations. 

‘Meanwhile, my husband has been “too busy” with work (read: his online gaming) to help with anything.

‘A few weeks ago, we decided to do a Secret Santa gift exchange with his family, including a $100 budget. 

‘My husband got assigned me, which I thought was sweet because he could easily get me something thoughtful without needing hints from anyone else. 

‘I, on the other hand, got his dad, and I spent weeks hunting down the perfect vintage vinyl record he’s been searching for.’ 

Her excitement soon turned into anger after she discovered that her spouse didn’t spend as much money on her as he did his friend. 

She said: ‘Fast forward to today. After spending all morning in the kitchen preparing Christmas dinner, I decided to sneak a peek at the gifts under the tree. 

‘That’s when I noticed a box with my husband’s handwriting addressed to someone named “The Warlord.” 

‘Confused, I opened it (yes, I snooped – sue me), and inside was a $150 custom-made gaming headset. 

‘For context, my husband has a gaming buddy he plays with almost every night who goes by “The Warlord.”

‘At first, I thought maybe he got an extra gift for his friend. But then it hit me: he spent more on a gift for his gaming buddy than he did on me, his wife. 

‘I checked the gift he got for me, and it was a $20 candle – yes, a candle – with the generic message: “Merry Christmas! Love, [husband’s name].”

‘I’m not even a candle person. I confronted him immediately. He laughed and said, “It’s just Secret Santa, not a big deal. Besides, The Warlord and I have been gaming together for years. You wouldn’t get it.”

‘No apology, no explanation – just excuses about how I’m “overreacting” and “ruining the holiday spirit.”‘

At the end of the post, she question if she was in the wrong, writing: ‘At that point, I’d had enough. 

‘I walked back to the kitchen, packed up the food, and told him Christmas dinner was canceled. 

‘His mom and sister started blowing up my phone, accusing me of being petty, but honestly, I don’t even care. 

‘I’m not about to serve dinner to a man who thinks his online buddy deserves more effort than his wife.

‘So here I am, drinking wine in my pajamas, while the ham I spent hours glazing sits untouched in the fridge. 

‘AITA for canceling Christmas dinner and making a point? Or should I have just sucked it up and let The Warlord win this one?’ 

People on the web flooded the comments section and shared their thoughts. 

One person said: ‘Not the a**hole, I’m not going with divorce. But you should definitely take a step back and evaluate if he puts the same amount of effort for you into everything that has to do with you. 

‘$20? It is the thought that counts, but I guarantee he did not look at the candle and go, “Yeah, that’s my wife.”‘ 

‘NTA for cancelling the dinner, clearly you are hurt that none of your efforts are reciprocated, and you are feeling a certain way, but what are you going to do next?’ asked someone else.

‘That’s the big question because your husband sounds like a disrespectful child and I wouldn’t want to live my life like that.’ 

Another user commented: ‘NTA. Eat the Christmas dinner yourself.’