My mom was having an affair with my boyfriend… and they would get intimate while I was in the ROOM with them

A woman has shared the devastating moment that she found out her boyfriend was having an affair – with her own mother.

Brooke, now 26, was 17 when she started dating her first boyfriend, whom she called M for the purposes of the story.

The California-based woman shared her story on the We’re All Insane podcast.

She explained that M, who was 18, was a teammate of her brother’s and ended up spending a lot of time in the family home.

‘He’d always be over at our house, super close with our family. you know it just made me so happy that I could have a boyfriend who not only had a great relationship [with me], but he had a great relationship with my brother and he would get along with my parents,’ she admitted. ‘It just felt so good.’

Brooke said that looking back at her relationship, she had naively ignored some of the red flags that popped up.

‘My mom was like immediately very attached to us,’ she continued. ‘She would be very supportive of me like wanting to go do things with him and hang out and stuff like that and sometimes would even like offer to come along and take us.’

Brooke said she started getting concerned when her mom began buying similar outfits to the ones she wore, and made a concentrated effort to look and act younger.

‘She really poured into her image at this time, she was trying to make herself look younger,’ described Brooke.

‘She was highlighting her hair so it was bright blonde like mine and just like like acting and kind of putting herself out there as looking younger.’

Brooke noted that her mom started to seek validation from her boyfriend as she strived for a more youthful look. 

‘She would almost act while she was with us like she was one of us, like she was a peer,’ Brooke explained. 

‘This is a part of like the relationship that I had with my mom growing up – [she] was never really emotionally a mother, she wanted to be my friend, she wanted to be at my level, she wanted to relate to me.’

She also recalled how her mom would go places like ‘to the store’ or ‘for a run’ and come back in a ‘completely different mood.’ 

Brooke said she even once went to her mom for sex advice – which she gave to her in detail.

She added that her mom would ask what she and M did – noting that again, it while it seems strange now, she didn’t pick up on it at the time.

‘I wouldn’t feel uncomfortable telling my mom like, “Hey this happened,” you know ’cause she was curious and she was invested in our relationship so it just felt like telling your girlfriend details,’ she noted.

Brooke explained that when she started to pick up on her mom acting suspiciously, it coincided with her parents going through a rough patch in their marriage. 

And just a few days after Christmas during her senior year of high school, things unraveled – and the affair was exposed.

‘I get home and I’m in the garage and my brother opens the door [and] he’s just staring at me, and he goes “M had sex with mom,”‘ she shared, admitting that it didn’t hit her when she initially heard the news.

‘I was like “you’re joking”, and I looked at him and I’m like “don’t say that,” and he looked at me again and his expression didn’t change – it was just stone cold, and he says the same exact thing.’

At this point, Brooke said her heart was pounding and her brother told her to call her dad.

‘I’m in like a total state of shock,’ she admitted. ‘I’m so confused there’s no way like it just doesn’t make sense to me.’

Brooke called her father, who confirmed that what her brother said was true – her mom had been sleeping with her boyfriend.  

‘I walked into that house and I ran straight to my parents bedroom where my mom was laying on the bed in the fetal position absolutely hysterically sobbing,’ she recalled of what happened next.

‘I ran in there [and] every single cuss word was coming out of my mouth I was throwing hands I was cussing her out I was screaming at her.’

‘I’d felt so destroyed and so betrayed and so confused and just every emotion that you could think of,’ Brooke admitted, adding that all her feeling were amplified by the fact her ‘own flesh and blood’ was the one to commit to act.

‘I just remember being so sad for my dad that he had to be in the position to not only address his own needs but mine.’

Brooke forced her mom to tell her about the affair, and she revealed where they had had sex, including a local park, in the car, and mainly, in their own house.

Brooke’s mom even admitted that they had kissed while she was in the room and recovering from having her wisdom teeth taken out.

‘She admitted to touching him and kissing him behind [me] while I’m on the couch. I mean, literally, like a couple feet behind me and I have no idea any of this was going on,’ she shared.

‘He would leave my room say good night … and on his way out he would meet her at a location in my house and see her.’

Brooke still had six months of high school left, so she said she went into ‘survival mode,’ actively trying to avoid her mom.

‘I remember going back to school and I didn’t think that it was going to be something that everybody knew about,’ she painfully recalled. 

‘But everybody knew [everyone’s] business and stories spread like wildfire.’

Brooke added the affair not only affected her, but also her siblings, who were taunted at school over it.

‘My mom saw a therapist after this had happened and she says that her therapist told her that she had basically a dissociative episode and that she didn’t understand that what she was doing was … not right which I call complete bulls**t on,’ she admitted.

Brooke said the experience made her act out in college, and that she would party and drink a lot, and eventually started sleeping around.

‘My whole existence just depended on feeling like I was desired and I felt good, and I never looked at myself in the mirror and said, I need help. I need to address the pain that this situation has caused,’ she said.

After spending some time in therapy, Brooke said she has made huge strides in coming to terms with the feelings of inadequacy that she ignored after the incident.

Brooke’s parents are still married, and in fact, she said their relationship has never been better.

‘A couple years after the fact, [I asked dad], “Why did you choose to stay with mom?” and he said that when he got married he made a vow, you know, for better for worse, all that stuff that I think nowadays we don’t take as seriously,’ she shared. 

‘I really admired my dad when he said that, and he was like, “I love your mom I know that she really f**ked up but I love your mom and I am going to do what whatever I can to stay committed to her.”‘

Brooke said she has put her relationship with her mother on the backburner for now, but working through her trauma has helped her become more vulnerable in many areas of her life.

‘I don’t think I will ever truly lose the scars that I’ve gotten from her and that situation, but I’ve learned to make peace with a lot of things I’ve learned to accept a lot of things and find the positives in them,’ she shared.