I went to lunch with the world’s most famous porn star. Here are 12 things she told me that will change your sex life forever – including the thing almost EVERYONE is getting wrong in the sack: JANA HOCKING

I’ve got the grumbles. I’m slightly hungover, navigating a hire car on the wrong side of the road, hunting for a park on one of the busiest streets in California – and frankly, I’m over it.

But then I remind myself: it’s midday, the sun is shining in LA, and I’m about to have lunch with a world-famous porn star at the famous Chateau Marmont.

Cue reality check.

I finally score a rockstar-worthy park just down the street and arrive wearing a floral pink Camilla slip dress that shows just enough cleavage to keep things classy with a cheeky wink for my dining companion.

I’m ten minutes early, so I ask the hostess if I can perch at the bar until my guest arrives. But nope, turns out Angela and her manager are already seated.

Bummer. I’d planned to skim over my questions and down a cheeky Bloody Mary in peace. But jolly good, on with the show.

I’m led to our table in the courtyard, and honestly, if these walls could talk… The Chateau Marmont has played host to a guest list that reads like a Hollywood fever dream. 

Marilyn Monroe and James Dean once sipped martinis here. These days, it’s more Harry Styles brooding or Kristen Stewart chain-smoking in the shadows. It’s moody, mysterious, and oh-so-scandalous – the perfect place to meet a porn star.

And there she is: Angela White, already seated and glowing in a black leather jacket, looking like the celebrity she clearly is.

Now let me be clear, Angela isn’t just a porn star. She’s the porn star. An Aussie-born powerhouse with both brains and beauty, she’s one of the most respected names in the adult industry. 

She makes clickbait queens like Bonnie Blue and Annie Knight look like rank amateurs.

Over the past two decades, she’s collected more awards than most actors could dream of, while also producing and directing her own work. 

Her fanbase? Global and devoted. But beyond the red carpets of AVN, Angela is whip-smart, articulate, and refreshingly grounded. A total legend – and if anyone has stories that could make even the Chateau’s walls blush, it’s her.

Now, the last time I lunched with Angela was in Sydney – and the chaos it caused was wild. I posted a selfie from a well-known restaurant, and my phone exploded. DMs, texts, calls – all from thirsty men begging for a seat at the table. 

One wealthy mate offered to swing by in his yacht and whisk us away for sunset martinis. A well-known footballer offered to pick up the bill. An old school friend begged me to share our next location just to snag a selfie. 

Oh, and then there was my brother, asking for photo proof that I was actually having lunch with the Angela White.

Naturally, I asked Angela if I could snap a quick pic for him. But she went one better – grabbed my phone, hit record, and filmed a saucy little video message while cupping her very ample assets. 

I felt slightly filthy sending it off, but when he opened it on a worksite surrounded by tradies, it’s safe to say I won ‘Sister of the Year’. Thank you, thank you, hold your applause.

So, needless to say, I came to this Chateau lunch expecting similar shenanigans. And let me tell you, it did not disappoint.

The moment I sat down, I noticed the furtive glances from nearby tables. The Chateau may be known for its discretion, but that didn’t stop a few gents from clearly recognising Angela and trying very hard not to let their wives or girlfriends clock them clocking her. It was deliciously awkward.

To us, it was just a Tuesday. I’m a sex columnist; she’s a porn star – it’s our bread and butter. But to the suits nearby trying to close movie deals over Cobb salads, I’ve no doubt our conversation was the real entertainment.

So allow me to share juicy tidbits from our lunch that had our fellow diners leaning…

1. She hasn’t had bad sex in years because… 

Unlike us mere mortals, fumbling our way through awkward Bumble dates in the hope of finally getting laid, Angela’s sex life is a well-oiled machine. Literally.

When I asked what the average person is getting wrong in bed, she admitted, ‘It’s actually a tough one, because a lot of the sex I have is on set with professionals who are so confident when they are having sex daily with other professionals.’

But once I pushed her, she confessed it really comes down to one thing: confidence.

2. PSA: ‘Men, you’ve got to stop thinking with your d***!’

When I asked where men could improve in the sack, she didn’t mince words:

‘Men have to stop only focusing on their d***.’

She added, ‘For a lot of men, they overthink about size, there’s all this performance anxiety, but if they just focus on the woman in front of them, they are going to do a better job of pleasing the woman.’

Preach, sister! As I’ve ranted before in my column – we truly couldn’t care less about size, just what you do with it.

Angela agreed: ‘Whenever a man tells me about his confidence issues in the bedroom, it’s always around, “Is my d*** big enough?” “Am I hard enough?” “Am I lasting long enough?”

‘And then they get into the bedroom and instead of focusing on a woman’s pleasure, they are so concerned about what’s happening between their legs.’

Her advice? ‘Stop thinking with your d***, focus on her and her pleasure, and the rest should run smoothly.’

3. Men in porn have erections that can last all day

Yep, you read that right. A man on a porn set might need to stay hard for hours.

Angela explained: ‘It’s intense because they are constantly getting aroused, then having to sit around on the set waiting for the next take, then having to get aroused again, that puts a lot of pressure on the male appendage.’

So how do they do it? Tantric breathing? Witchcraft?

Angela told me: ‘There are some men in this industry who are just purely born for porn. They have absolute control – they can get hard on command, climax on command, have sex for as long as they’re asked to. And then there are other guys who have to employ techniques not to climax – whether it’s doing maths in their head, something to distract themselves from the actual feeling.’

4. She doesn’t disassociate during scenes – she’s present

I once asked an escort what she thinks about during sex with clients, and she said she’s usually mentally going through her shopping list. Not Angela.

‘Not me. For me, the best porn is made when the two people are really connecting with each other. So my aim on every porn set is to really be present and in the moment, to give each other pleasure. 

‘If I start getting in my head, then I’m not really focused on their pleasure and my pleasure. And the camera doesn’t lie.’

She says her fans feel that too: ‘They can feel my pleasure and it resonates with them because that’s what they want to feel when they’re in bed with someone. So I try and do what they want in their home life, on a porn set.’

5. There’s a crowd behind the camera during sex scenes

Turns out porn isn’t all moans and mood lighting, there’s a full-on audience watching.

‘There are five to ten people standing around, camera operators, makeup artists, talent liaison, director – just a bunch of people watching you. And it’s in dead silence.’

The unsung hero? The talent liaison: ‘If we need water, a douche, or a baby wipe, we go to them. Or if we are uncomfortable for any reason, we go to them and they will liaise with the director and sort it out.’

They also run through an extensive boundaries checklist before filming.

Honestly, where was this form in my twenties?

6. Angela is a bona fide businesswoman

She’s not just one of the top-earning OnlyFans creators – she also had an exclusive deal with Brazzers, directs and produces her own DVD line (yes, DVDs still exist!), and continues to clean up during awards season. Boss moves.

7. OnlyFans has oddly specific restrictions

I asked if there were content rules and she said: ‘It’s constantly changing depending on what the credit card companies decide. If they decide something’s obscene, we’re not allowed to put it on OnlyFans. They control the show.’

‘There are obvious things, like illegal stuff isn’t allowed, but then there’s other things like premenstrual blood isn’t allowed… even if it happens accidentally, we have to cut it out.’

Oh, and foreign objects are a no-go: ‘Even things like a cucumber is a no.’

At this point her manager swooped in, told me to shush, and went on a long rant about the credit card companies. Yawn. On with the show.

8. Her advice for women like Bonnie Blue doing ‘stunt porn’

Yes, I asked about women like Bonnie Blue who make headlines with wild stunts like sleeping with 1,000 men. Angela said:

‘When it comes to what anybody does in the adult industry, they should focus on what they really enjoy… and for me, it’s connecting with my on-screen partner.’

She added: ‘That’s what resonates with fans. When I’m doing studio scenes, we work hard to make sure that all the pairings are right. That’s my focus.’

And my favourite line: ‘I stay in my own lane because I don’t want to be influenced by what other performers are doing. I want to make sure I’m always doing things that I’m excited by and bring me pleasure.’

9. She’s done it all – and doesn’t need to chase shock value

Angela’s résumé is as X-rated as it gets.

‘I’ve already done things like romantic boy/girl scenes, blow bangs, gang bangs… I’ve done everything. And again, for me, no matter what the scene type, it’s all about that on-screen chemistry.’

It’s not about the shock factor. It’s about the vibe.

Hear, hear! Take a seat Bonnie Blue and your gang, and watch how the big girls get it done.

10. Porn sets are the safest place to explore kinks

Angela says: ‘That’s what my whole career has been about – expressing and exploring my own sexuality. And the porn industry is actually the safest industry to explore kinks.

‘Everyone is tested, everyone is clean, and they’re professionals. It’s intimidating to perform in front of other men, so the guys we use are comfortable, experienced and respectful.’

Now here’s an extra example she told me: ‘Plus, there are talent liaisons and directors on set, so that if, say, you were trying to organise a 20-person gangbang in your personal life, you know, that could be a situation that could be quite intimidating, but on a porn set if there’s ever a moment I feel uncomfortable, I can say cut, and everything stops.’

11. She meets her scene partners at industry events

Don’t expect to see Angela trawling Schoolies. She meets her potential partners at industry events.

‘Like the Pornhub Awards, for example. I’ll end up meeting a bunch of performers I haven’t met before, and I’ll just, like, see the vibe.’

She also trusts word-of-mouth: ‘Other girls will give good reviews on who works for women’s pleasure.’

12. There’s a full warm-up process before a big scene

Angela explained: ‘I’ll go to the bathroom – we call it “girlie stuff” – we freshen up, and if it’s a bigger guy, we prepare for that.’

Speaking of prep: ‘We do nails, hair, scrubs, moisturising – you kind of prepare for a shoot like you would for a date. Because you want to feel good and confident, and smell good.’ 

Afterwards? ‘Epsom salt baths are the dream. By the end of a long scene, you’ve probably done a full cardio workout, so your body’s ready to relax. Sometimes I get a massage too – it’s great for muscle recovery.’

So, what did I learn over lunch with Angela White? That porn is far more professional than most corporate boardrooms, that emotional connection trumps shock value, and that confidence (and communication) are the ultimate turn-ons. 

Angela isn’t just a performer; she’s a business-savvy, pleasure-positive powerhouse who knows exactly what she wants and how to get it. 

As I sipped the last of my rosé and watched her graciously pose for a selfie with a nervous fan near the valet, I couldn’t help but think: if more people approached sex the way Angela does – with curiosity, clarity and confidence – we’d all be having a much better time between the sheets.