The ‘three-second’ rule that makes you instantly more attractive and memorable at work AND in relationships
A leading relationship expert has shared the trick she claims makes you instantly more attractive – and it takes just three seconds.
Louanne Ward, a qualified matchmaker and coach from Perth, Western Australia, claims many are ‘killing their own attraction powers without even realising it’.
‘They’re rushing conversation to fill silence and thinking more about what they want to say next rather than listening,’ she said.
‘There’s also lots of fast movements and fidgeting.
‘These simple things added up are attraction blockers.’
Louanne said her three-second ‘pause and hold technique’ will ensure those you meet see you as more attractive, charismatic and memorable than they would have otherwise.
It works like this:
1. When you enter a room, meet someone new, or start speaking, pause for three seconds.
A leading relationship expert has shared the trick she claims makes you instantly more attractive – and it takes just three seconds
2. Hold eye contact before looking away.
3. Pause before responding to a question.
4.Let a moment breathe instead of rushing to fill it.
This science-backed method works in multiple ways. The first being that pausing shows confidence.
‘People who rush seem nervous. A slight pause signals certainty,’ Louanne said.
Holding eye contact also builds connection – just two to three seconds can ensure someone feels an instant pull toward you.
‘It makes people lean in,’ Louanne continued.
‘When you don’t rush, your words carry more weight.’
Louanne said her three-second ‘pause and hold technique’ will ensure those you meet see you as more attractive, charismatic and memorable than they would have otherwise
Louanne, who has had more than two decades of experience in the industry, said most people don’t use this method because ‘silence feels uncomfortable’.
‘But the moment you learn to own it, you change the way people see you forever,’ she said.
‘And this is just one small piece of what makes attraction effortless.’
Louanne has launched a new Dating Lounge in a bid to teach methods like these, along with tried and tested tips for forming deep, natural connections without swiping endlessly or chasing people who don’t see your value.
You can find the link to it in the bullet points.
